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I am awakened by my four-year-old jumping on me in the day breaking hours of the morning. It is always too early, yet, a new day has come again. During this new season in life, it feels like a never-ending day. With uncertainty, I check my phone to determine the time and actual day of the week. It’s 6:02 am on Wednesday, April 1, 2020. Like Groundhog Day, my son and I engage in the same conversation every time he wakes up. He asks if he can go to school, and I inform him that school is still closed. Then he asks if he can go to the park, to which I also reply “closed”. He wines and begs for a cognitive understanding of the sudden changes in his routine and life. I share with him that a lot of people are getting sick and we must stay at home to stay healthy. We also talk about how his school and our community have made major changes to ensure our safety and health. It is never a response he likes to hear but he seems to accept my explanation for now. As a mom and family therapist, I am taken aback by the depth of changes our children and families are undergoing as a collective, global system. There is also so much fear as to how this pandemic may be impacting our families. From the possibility of becoming ill or losing someone, to the financial stress as bills pile up and income halts, to the emotional stress of “too much family time” as parental engagement increases to 24/7 and it seems that our relationships are bearing the brunt of this new way of being. It is stressful. The reality is, for most families, quarantining is no easy task, despite an understanding and willingness to participate in it. I have seen lots of “how to survive quarantine” parenting guides lately and have found some to be well thought out. However, the truth is, there are no guiding posts on how to get through something we are all just trying to survive while also navigating our fight, flight or freeze responses in our brains to the building fear around us. This is because every family is different and has different needs. There is no way we can generalize how to get through this mayhem in a set number of easy steps. In helping our families, sometimes we need to step back and gain some perspective. By taking time to broaden our view of our home life we can remember that our own experience is not always everyone’s shared experience. For one family, they may welcome an increase in family time and participate in activities such as baking banana bread or porch family photography sessions. Other families may experience an increase in parentification by the oldest siblings, who are now expected to care for their younger siblings 40-60 hours a week while their single parent works to provide for the family. Other families may be significantly impacted by the overall stress leading to an increase in substance abuse or even domestic violence within the home. For these families, the generalizing advice of simply engaging in mediation to stay calm is unhelpful and even oppressive. Reminding ourselves, as a community, to step back and see where we are within this pandemic is important in helping support our families and children as well. This reflection gives space to witness our own personal experience and the experiences of those around us. These differences may be key in creating compassion, kindness and collective support. To explore this further we can look at one of Abraham Maslow’s psychological theories. He developed a theory called Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to speak to the motivation of humans through the completion of each level of needs for individual growth. These needs include: physiological, safety, love/belonging, esteem and self-actualization. When exploring where you are within your familial growth and motivation in this pandemic there is a lot to consider. The first need in the hierarchy that must be met is physiological. This includes basic needs such as breathing, food, water, sleep and homeostasis. When thinking of how many people throughout the world are simply trying to obtain physiological needs for their children and families, it is eye-opening and heartbreaking. Once needs of food, water and shelter are met, one can assess if they are meeting their safety needs. This includes security of body, employment, resources, morality, family, health and property. The next step in the hierarchy is love/belonging where friendship, family and sexual intimacy occur. Then comes esteem, where one is able to respect others and have confidence and self-esteem. Finally, there is self-actualization, where one can accept facts, is nonjudgmental, can engage in problem-solving, creativity and morality. For many families, basic necessities are coming into question, as food supplies dwindle and the financial ability to stock up on food is nonexistent. While other families or leaders are at the highest level of the hierarchy of needs. They are able to explore creative ways to help others or even solve bigger financial issues for their family such as selling out of stocks that are not yielding the income they are hoping for within this economic climate. To support one another as a community, we first have to meet each other where we are at. Healing occurs when we can hold space for the pain, grief and trauma that may be occurring, witness it from a nonjudgmental place and give compassion, all while processing emotions. We must all start the support within our own homes first. Where is your family located on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Chart? Are you on the physiological, safety, love/belonging, esteem or self-actualization level? Once you realize where you are functioning from based on your family’s level of need take a minute to sit in it. Really think about what that means for you as a parent/family and how that may be impacting your abilities. Then, take a minute, grieve, let those big feelings out and give yourself grace. Wow, you are somehow managing! You are doing the best you possibly can, given these unforeseen circumstances. You may wish it was better, kinder, or even prettier. However, I assure you, you are doing better than you think you are. Once you have gathered yourself and realized that, no matter how bad it might be, you are still there for your children to the best of your abilities. Then, maybe you can step back further and think about your children. You may be trying to work from home as a single parent or even manage a home of college-age kids. No matter what you are going through, your children (younger or older) are adjusting to this new way of life as well. Though their outbursts or challenges may seem minute in comparison to those fighting for their lives with the coronavirus, their emotional experiences are still valid. Like adults, your children are experiencing losses and grievances of their own, including the loss of friendships, daily structure, sporting events, prom, graduations and interactions with the outside world. No matter how insignificant these losses may feel to you as a parent, they are significant within their peer/developmental experiences for your children. Creating space to sit down and talk with your children is key to your understanding of their experiences. Opening up a conversation about what it has been like for them to be in quarantine may be very eye-opening. During this time, it is important to move into more of an observer role, rather than a problem-solver. Being able to make validating statements, such as “I hear it is really sad for you to be missing out on …”, or “I hear it is really scary for you because …” creates space for you as a parent to witness and honor their emotional experiences. When children feel heard they are able to regulate their emotions within a great time of fear and panic. This emotional regulation is essential to a calm home environment. We often want to problem solve through our children’s experiences because as parents we feel like it is our job to fix their grievances. However, at this time the opposite is true. Allowing space for our kids to share their feelings teaches youth that their feelings are important, even if we as parents can’t “make it better” instantly. You being there within these moments of big emotions shows your kids how much you care! It also helps families learn to talk about hard feelings without shutting down. Additionally, it is also important to remember that you are your children’s guide in this world. Your ability to stay calm during emotionally charged conversations is really important as well. It could be easy for children to be overexposed to scary news programing, social media messages or witnessing a family member go through coronavirus health issues first hand. If you, as their guide, can create space as an observer/witness and validate the emotional experience of your child/teen/young adult, while staying calm, it helps your child to regulate their own fight, flight or freeze reactivity. No one wants a guide to be scared, unsure or hysterical when they are supposed to help you navigate new terrain. The same goes for you as a parent within quarantine. You may not have all the answers but, hopefully, you can dig deep and find the ability to be calm and help guide your child within these new experiences. As parents, it is our job to keep our children safe and healthy. In times like this it can be hard to feel like we are actually able to do this especially when things feel so out of our control. However, sharing the action plan you have outlined for your family, in a developmentally appropriate manner, can help your children see that you are doing everything you possibly can to protect them. Additionally, finding ways to reassure your children that they are safe and healthy right now is helpful in deescalating panic. Bringing your children back to the present and pointing out their current state can help debunk any future tripping and thinking errors they might be experiencing. It also will help create space to talk through any fears they might have grabbed onto that need clarification. Our brains are hardwired to make sense of things. For children, when they do not have all the information or do not understand everything, they will often make up information to fill in the blanks. This can lead to emotional or even physical outbursts. Therefore, taking the time to identify and clarify their cognitive understanding of the pandemic while reassuring our children during a time of mass fear is essential. These conversations will need to be ongoing as information and emotional experiences change. Tomorrow, I am sure I will wake up way too early and be bombarded by questions from my preschooler once again. My half-awake brain will listen to his disappointment and frustration as to how quarantine life continues to impact him. I will remind him why we are engaging in this life change “stay at home” orders to save lives. I will remain calm. If I am being honest, my half-asleep body will give me the resilience to not be reactive in the moment. Then I will reassure him that we are both safe and healthy. As more questions, emotions and challenges occur throughout the day I continue to do my best to remain open to his experiences. I will dig deep and try to be calm as his guide in order to help my son to regulate how he feels with love, support, compassion and reassurance. I will not always do it perfectly, but I will try my best to support him unconditionally. In the meantime, I will continue to remind parents and families that they are doing the best they can within this public health crisis. Parents, remember you are not alone, no matter what stage of need you are in. We are all in it together without “7 simple steps” to guide us through the choppy waters of the unknown. However, we will teach our children that in the mix of uncertainty we can manage big feelings and get through trying times as a family, community, society and world. To learn more about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs you can check out: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html Nicole “Nikki” Moore, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the co-founder of the lifestyle brand Live Moore Co. Nikki and her late husband, Matt Moore, began the brand to inspire others to live life to the fullest while Matt battled colorectal cancer. Following the loss of her husband in 2017, Nikki Moore continues to engage in operating Live Moore Co., consult, write and participate in colorectal cancer advocacy work. She is the VP of communication and operations for The Colon Club and event co-director for the Colon Cancer Coalition’s Tucson, AZ and Portland, OR Get Your Rear in Gear 5k races.

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Dear Friends, How do you transform the future for youth so they follow a path toward self-sufficiency? It takes Arizona Youth Partnership’s holistic approach and YOU – a caring member of our community. Melissa grew up in poverty, raised by single mom who worked long hours to provide for herself and her children. Throughout her childhood, Melissa experienced abuse and trauma that led her to look for acceptance in unhealthy places: She tried alcohol for the first time at age 10 She experimented with different drugs until becoming addicted She dropped out of high school at the age of 16 At 18, she experienced violence that nearly took her life Melissa’s addiction and chaotic life grew out of control until she was 25 when she found help and got clean. Sadly, Melissa is not uncommon. There are 186,773 youth in Arizona considered at-risk like Melissa. Melissa overcame her barriers and now shares her story as an educator at Arizona Youth Partnership (AZYP). She is passionate about our work and every day, she asks: “What if AZYP had been there when I was 11?” What if…Melissa’s mom had enrolled her in a safe, free afterschool program? What if…Melissa and her mother had attended a “Stronger Families” program where her mom learned how to set limits and Melissa learned her value as a human being? What if…Melissa had learned about the risks of using drugs at an early age and gained the skills to say no? What if…a group of community members had created a community where alcohol wasn’t available to underage students? What if…Melissa learned self-acceptance and coping skills that allowed her to see her future? You can help us change the future rather than asking “What if?” Every day, your support takes these “what ifs” and turns them into a positive future for Arizona youth and families. When you give to AZYP, we are able to: Deliver Wake Up! a program that assists youth struggling with alcohol or drug addiction Improve outcomes for pregnant teens and stabilize their family situations Create safe spaces for homeless youth in supportive, statewide shelter programs Inspire leadership among all of the individuals we serve Last year, we impacted over 10,000 youth and their family members in 29 communities across the state; there is more we can do with you on our side. I invite you to make a special year-end donation of $200, $100, $50, or any amount, to help us create a healthy, bright future for Arizona. It’s easy to make a gift by clicking here. While you’re here, I hope you will take time to learn about the many programs offered by Arizona Youth Partnership that encourage youth to grow into healthy, self-sufficient adults. Won’t you join us in changing the future? With gratitude, Lori Malangone Chief Executive Officer P.S. AZYP is a qualified charitable organization (20953) and your donation is eligible for the Arizona Tax Credit up to $400 for an individual and up to $800 for couples filing jointly. Contact your tax advisor for more information.

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Students Learn CPR, AED Procedures 18 students at AmeriSchools Academy that were attending an Arizona Youth Partnership Summer Leadership Institute were able to learn infant and adult CPR, and learn the proper procedures for using an AED machine. Youth Educator, Dominque Cruz taught the students, aged 10-13 various first aid techniques, while stressing the importance of calling 911 first. All of the students received certification in CPR and AED use.

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2016-2017 Annual Report Arizona Youth Partnership builds solid foundations for youth and families by partnering with Arizona communities to prevent and solve local issues such as substance abuse, youth homelessness, lack of educational opportunities, teen pregnancy, and challenging family dynamics. Download the Annual Report below

2015-2016 Annual Report On behalf of the Arizona Youth Partnership Board of Directors, I am honored to share this 25- year anniversary annual report. AZYP was founded in 1990 by a group of concerned citizens who saw a huge lack of services in rural Pima County and wanted to bring more resources to these areas. Pima Youth Partnership was born in the communities of Ajo, Marana and Sahuarita. In 2006, we changed our name to become Arizona Youth Partnership and expanded to Gila, Apache and Mohave Counties bringing resources to rural communities statewide. This year we celebrate 25 years of cultivating healthy foundations for youth and promoting strong families. In addition to celebrating our 25th anniversary, we began two new strategic initiatives. This includes Providence Place, a shelter for girls in Bullhead City and Open Doors Preschool in Marana. Both of these new programs represent an expansion of the amazing work that AZYP has been doing for 25 years. On behalf of our Board of Directors and staff, we thank you for your support and interest in AZYP. We are looking forward to another 25 years of changing lives. Don Cox AZYP Board President Download the Annual Report below